You are what you jerk off to


by Laurie Penny    
8:58 am - March 31st 2008

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Violent pornography has become part of our cultural language. Its conceits are used to sell everything, from clothes to cars to women’s underwear. But is censorship the answer?

A recent article of mine on The F Word in response to new UK porn laws laid down by the Criminal Justice and Immigration Bill 2008 generated a surprising amount of controversy. In brief, part of the Bill sets out to ban various forms of ‘extreme’ pornography, including bestiality, necrophilia and some ‘snuff’ porn.

I argued that censorship is not the answer, nor will it do anything to reduce the harm violent and extreme pornography does to some individuals’ sexual and personal development; I argued that censorship will drive the industry further underground, making it more racy and enticing and generating an unsafe working environment for those involved in producing ‘extreme’ pornography. I mentioned that there is little extant evidence to suggest that ‘extreme’ pornography leads directly to extreme sexual violence.

I was declared naive and gullible by feminists and anti-porn sexists alike, claiming that pornography is harmful, hateful and extremely socially damaging. I must protest at this, and not merely because noone who has read the synopsis briefs for SlutBus 4 and A Filthy Little Cocksucking Whore Named Marilyn for research purposes will ever be quite so naive ever again. I never claimed that violent pornography was not damaging.

Violent pornography is unquestionably, incontrovertibly damaging, and as a feminist against censorship I am achingly aware of that fact.

I merely happen to believe that porn censorship is not the answer, and that the Bill currently on the Commons table will do fat, shiny nothing in a bag for women’s liberation.I do not believe that banning violent pornography will make men less greedy for it or its images less pervasive and damaging. I do believe – I passionately believe -that physically and emotionally violent pornography is symptomatic of an endemic social paradigm wherein masculine power and cruelty is eroticised, and that this paradigm leads to sexual violence amongst many, many other atrocities.

The question of whether pornography directly causes or does not cause sexual violence somewhat evades the real issue. The reason that pornography is such a sticky problem, the reason that many feminists hate and fear pornography, is the same reason that many in the pro-patriarchal sphere are willing to go to the wire to defend it: mainstream, heterosexual pornography as it is mass-produced by western society holds up an accurate mirror to the violently misogynist world in which we are living.

Let me repeat that for the confused or post-orgasmic: the fact of pornography itself, however ‘extreme’, is not socially harmful, but the messages inherent in most western pornography, never mind the ‘extreme’ end, re-enforce social paradigms of sexual inequality, male sexual subjectivity and violence against women. When I say that ‘the quality of most porn is dreadful’, this is what I’m talking about.

You are what you jerk off to
In this pornographic world, inequality and injustice are eroticised. Power and dominance, for the most part of men over women, are eroticised. The exercise of that dominance in cruel, violent or humiliating ways is eroticised, and when something is eroticised in the mainstream to this extent, it becomes normalised.

What isn’t extant in porn is almost as critical as what is – to whit, respect, tenderness, human emotion, sensitivity. I’m with Jensen in conceding that there are economic as well as ideological reasons for this, namely that most pornography is bought by men as aids to masturbation, and on-screen emotion tends, it is posited, to detract from the salient pleasures of self-stroking.

Some form of psychological kick has to replace that tenderness or affection as a narrative hook – hence the introduction of cruelty and violence into the remit of Joe Average Mustachioed Porn Director. I’m not yet proposing radical tenderness as a social strategy, not least because it would put paid to my favourite hobby of sitting in smoking rooms, drinking vile coffee and hating things.

But I’m behind the radfems in noting that its total erasure from pornography is worrying, to say the least: pornography leached of mature emotional responsiveness is often (indeed, usually) the first illicit means of educating young men about sex. For almost half the population, violent or objectifying pornography is now the cultural blueprint for sexual relations. What does that mean for gender politics, and what are our options other than to lash out at the offending material?

If patriarchal culture, where rape and gender-fascism are facts of life, is the disease, then the many forms of porn are the oozing, blood-crusted pustules that cluster in the tenderest crevices of the diseased body. Like children, we attack the sores with nails and teeth, ignoring the fact that the body itself is sick to death. By scratching at the pustules, we will only drive the rot deeper.

Corpse-fucking and the state…
So what is the government’s response? How are our politicians working to root out the infection from our feverish, sickening gender paradigms? Let’s let’s look again at that government bill. One of the first types of pornography that’s forbidden is ‘[images of any] act which involves or appears to involve sexual interference with a human corpse’ – that is, necrophilia. Now, correct me if I’m wrong, but necrophiliacs are a very small and specialised sect of the fetish community.

There will never be enough necrophiliac porn, just as there will never be a large enough necrophiliac culture, to normalise corpse-fucking as a social paradigm. And frankly, if that’s your kink and you can excise it by watching badly made-up zombies shag each other on telly, then fair enough. So why is it that pornography that appears to show necrophilia – a very rare and totally illegal practice that doesn’t really have much of a social discourse – is NOT okay, whereas pornography that shows live women appearing to be raped, humiliated and beaten to within an inch or their lives is totally fine?

Let’s grit our teeth and face this one: it’s fine on television because it’s normalised in society. Maggoty, squelchy grave-diving turns the stomachs of our politicians, and yes, I’m a kink-friendly, accommodating anarcho-buddhist with not much sympathy for the meat of the body, but I can see why that might be. The bill covers necrophilia, bestiality, ‘snuff’ movies and severe injury to the sexual organs.

Rape, all other sexual violence, extreme female submission, double- and triple-penetration, humiliation, sexual cruelty – all of this fails even to make it into the draft bill, because it’s been normalised in western society. Not only that, but in a neo-liberal capitalist system there could be no question of banning this type pornography, because such an action would by now mean outlawing nearly all heterosexual porn. And porn generates more revenue than the entire British film industry, minus many of the overheads. Not only is banning violent porn not the answer – it’s not even the question yet.

Censorship of ‘extreme’ pornography will not solve the problem of sexual violence and gender fascism eating away at the bones of progressive western culture. Instead, we need the courage to look into that mirror and respond appropriately to what we see there. Whether disgust, direct action or bland acceptance, our reaction to these images determines who we are, and who we will become as a society.

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Laurie Penny is a regular contributor to Liberal Conspiracy. She is a journalist, blogger and feminist activist. She is Features Assistant at the Morning Star, and blogs at Penny Red and for Red Pepper magazine.
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Well, I agree with your anti-censorship position.

The rest of the piece brings up a lot of interesting issues but, in general, I would challenge your normative position that erotic cruelty, humiliation etc.. are inherently “bad” in consensual sexual relations, any more than, for example, tragedy or violence or humiliation on stage or in films are bad.

One of the things that makes us different from animals is that we don’t just have sex. We have narrative and ritual with our sex. Some people like a romantic narrative with their sex, others thrilling, others shocking. The important thing is that all participants consent and enjoy it.

What I find much more worrying and artificial is the idea that sex shouldn’t have a narrative at all, that it is purely functional (for procreation) as the original anti-porn brigade, the religious, claim. All pornography (mainstream or the more interesting) challenges that.

In brief, part of the Bill sets out to ban various forms of ‘extreme’ pornography, including bestiality, necrophilia and some ’snuff’ porn.

None of which is problematic – the difficulty with the Bill, as with all forms of censorship, is that what is ‘extreme’ can only be defined in subjective terms, hence the fear that what will also be criminalised will be consensual BSDM images.

In that there is a distinction to be drawn between the porn produced for the BSDM market, which is as likely to cast males in submissive situations and pseudo-BDSM produced for the mainstream market in which women are invariably depicted in submissive roles.

What isn’t extant in porn is almost as critical as what is – to whit, respect, tenderness, human emotion, sensitivity.

Apart from in the growing market for ‘female-oriented’ porn, most of which is produced by female directors and, in the main, female-owed production companies – that’s markets for you – as more women get over the old sexual taboos and start getting into porn, the more the porn industry is starting to cater for their tastes, which tend to run far more to eroticism and sensuality then the old ‘in and out’.

I passionately believe -that physically and emotionally violent pornography is symptomatic of an endemic social paradigm wherein masculine power and cruelty is eroticised, and that this paradigm leads to sexual violence amongst many, many other atrocities.

Study after study has failed to establish any clear link between porn and sexual violence, hence the two studies showing that the increase in availability of porn in the US and Japan is correlated with a reduction of the incidence of rape and other forms of non-consensual sexual violence. As with the Reagan-era attempt to demonstrate a link between porn and rape, what the research shows is that what porn creates is masturbation and this serves as a palliative rather than a trigger in the majority of men.

Much as in the ‘signature’ case relating to this bill, the murder of Jane Longhurst, much was made of his admission that was ‘addicted’ to ‘extreme’ porn, much less attention was given to the fact that he had had ‘murderous thoughts’ since the age of 15 and showed signs of a pre-existing sociopathic disorder.

Rape, all other sexual violence, extreme female submission, double- and triple-penetration, humiliation, sexual cruelty – all of this fails even to make it into the draft bill, because it’s been normalised in western society.

Hardly – most of the more ‘violent’ material is still very much niche market and the dynamics of sexual behaviour are complicated – for example, its now becoming well documented that abstinence pledge programmes in the US cause unexpected modifications in sexual behaviour. Teenager girls who have taken such pledges have been show to be likely to delay their first experience of full vaginal intercourse by 18 months to 2 years, but are also four times as likely to have engaged in either oral or anal intercourse as an alternative than teenagers who don’t take the self-denial route.

It’s also not true to say that this is a ‘western’ thing either – try looking at what passed for erotica in 17th Century Japan, nor it is particularly modern, as you’ll quickly discover should you ever manage to get a pass to the restricted section of the British Library or the Bilbliotheque Nationale.

3. Publicansdecoy

Another excellent post., with which I broadly agree. The problem is that the values of most porn films (the job of women is to pleasure men) are being increasingly refelected in wider society. Porn is a fiction, a show, and a pretty bad one at that, but people are taking it as reality. That’s what I find really depressing.

Excellent post.

I think the thing that seems to be missing from these discussions a lot of the time is the fact that porn is a business and, as such, is not simply the unmediated reflection of what “consumers” want.

There’s obviously a relationship between what people want and what they get – but the producers of porn set the agenda to an extent – and gear their productions towards making money. There is an ideology that goes with this, as well as with the owners’ relationship to workers in the industry.

I wonder if the owners interests somehow cut against allowing performers the kind of autonomy that would allow the “quality” to improve. Better to have a production line with tick boxes of pre-defined acts than, cough, giving performers their head, cough, and producing something that feels a little more human.

I don’t think that most men actively want violent sexual images (although I’m sure some do) – but perhaps there’s something about the industry that pushes a lot of it that way. I suspect a core part of this is the voyeuristic nature of porn where no human relationship is required – let alone consent – so sex becomes separated from the social and therefore porn that features love doesn’t fit the medium in the same way that porn that features ever more sensationalised imagery.

I think.

@ Unity – I think the article’s claim is that the wider fetishisation of male cruelty in society leads to sexual violence, and specifically not that porn does…

Jim Jay: I wonder if the owners interests somehow cut against allowing performers the kind of autonomy that would allow the “quality” to improve.

If you think about it, this can’t be true, because the barriers to entry are too low. The things you need to set up a porn company — such as still cameras, video cameras, websites — are all easily affordable by the average person in an industrialised country.

John B: I think the article’s claim is that the wider fetishisation of male cruelty in society leads to sexual violence, and specifically not that porn does…

I have friends who are into BDSM within a consensual relationship or setting, and they are not cruel or violent, in fact they are kind, helpful, decent people.

So if that’s the claim, I say it’s bollocks.

8. septicisle

There’s one major thing missing from this critique, as there nearly always is from feminist criticism of porn – the admittance that the women that appear in it are doing so of their own free will, and that, shock horror, a good proportion of those that appear in it actually enjoy doing so. Yes, some of them are doing so because they have drug habits, and yes, some of them are in the porn industry because it was the last place they had to turn to, and others have been introduced to it when at their most vulnerable, but certainly the vast majority now are doing so out of free choice, or to make money so they can go through college, etc. We can argue about whether it’s the best place for them to be doing so – but it won’t do to ignore the fact that this is about choice just as much as anything else.

I could take issue with most of this post and its atypical feminist outrage tone, which really grates, incidentally, and I consider myself more than sympathetic to feminist argument, at least of the moderate variety, but this part instead will suffice:

“Rape, all other sexual violence, extreme female submission, double- and triple-penetration, humiliation, sexual cruelty – all of this fails even to make it into the draft bill, because it’s been normalised in western society.”

Probably because, with the exception of double penetration and humiliation (subjective, but I find “bukkake”, choking and slapping extremely unpleasant and humiliating and won’t watch anything with the last two in), all the other things mentioned are still incredibly rare in porn and you’ll have to go out of your way to find those niches. I’m not ashamed (all right, I am a little) to admit I watch a fair amount of pornography, and I can’t say I’ve ever witnessed a staged rape in porn, extreme female submission or sexual cruelty. All three occur far more in mainstream films than they do in most pornography. It depends what you mean by triple penetration, whether we’re talking 2 men and a dildo, but that also is very rare, mainly for the obvious reason being that it’s rather difficult for three men to have sex with a woman at once, or at least penetrating her all at once. It also hasn’t been normalised in western society – rather, it’s been normalised in mainstream pornography, and that is the real issue we should be discussing, and one that you do mention, being the lack of tenderness in pornography, and how that impacts on sexual urges, especially among the easily impressionable young, who see such porn and then get the idea that such sex is either natural or aspirational. This doesn’t just affect men incidentally – recent polls suggested that young girls are growing up with the idea that catering to their sexual partner’s every whim is something they must do, and pornography and patriarchy cannot be wholly blamed for that.

I do of course agree with your anti-censorship view, but back up Nick and Unity’s arguments otherwise.

Cabalamat: As I, too, have a lot of friends (including myself and my housemates) who are into the fetish/BDSM scene, I have tried to word the article carefully to exclude that element of sexual play. In fact, I believe that some of the role-play within specific BDSM erotica/play is about as far from normalised gender paradigms as you can get – the power relations are fantasised, and partners of both sexes can play dominant or submissive.

Septicisle – I’m afraid I, too, watch a fair amount of pornography and, from my experience, depictions of violent and cruel acts within the pornographic idiom aren’t rare at all. Maybe we’ll just have to disagree!

-’recent polls suggested that young girls are growing up with the idea that catering to their sexual partner’s every whim is something they must do, and pornography and patriarchy cannot be wholly blamed for that’

By ‘patriarchy cannot be blamed for that’, do you mean that men cannot be blamed? Women and those who raise them are almost equally involved in patriarchy, even if their privilege within the system is not the same. And young girls, more and more often, are also exposed to porn and to pornographic conceits – like young boys, young girls have sexual desires and will seek these things out, although there is not as much of a tradition of shared or open porn consumption.

Scepticisle:

There’s one major thing missing from this critique, as there nearly always is from feminist criticism of porn – the admittance that the women that appear in it are doing so of their own free will, and that, shock horror, a good proportion of those that appear in it actually enjoy doing so.’

I felt I ought to respond to this separately. The ‘porn artists enjoy it!’ argument is rather a fallback position of the patriarchal pro-porn league – yes, sex workers of any kind are people too, often people who really need the money, which is why things like the IUSW and other sex artists’ unions need to exist. However, whether or not the models are there of their own free choice is rather missing the point.

The point is that images like this – damaging images – are being produced and influencing massive sections of the population, and those images need to be critiqued, just as any mass media needs to be critiqued.

That porn actors and actresses are there by choice, however limited that choice may be, is rather a given. If it were an industry standard that they were all sex slaves forced into humiliating themselves on film, we’d have a much more clean-cut debate on our hands!

11. septicisle

That in turn then also opens up the other obvious argument – that without pornography, which is an outlet for sexual frustration, there’d be a lot more sexual assaults. Those who make this argument often point to Japan, where although there is curious censorship of genitals for instance, pornography, explicit manga etc are freely available, the crime rate is far lower than in Western states which take a different approach. It’s not one I wholly endorse, but if we’re going with the idea that pornography is always going to be damaging, as you appear to be suggesting, then there’s more than room for that retort too.

As the article states, this is a sticky issue – and the sticking point is exactly where the damage starts and how we can be sure any intervention is successful.

Sexual and psychological violence are, of course, damaging, counterproductive and completely preventable evils. I think we all agree on that, but the fundamental questions continue to be missed by the tendency to ideologise conclusions.

Is pornography the cause or the product of the illness, or is it just another link in the chain of psychological attitudes and social patterns? Is the commoditisation of personal behaviour an exchange of economic benefit at the expense of participants (on either or both the production and consumer sides)?

I think the traditional approach of polarising the debate into right/left arguments is flawed by the intractible conflict between those two interpretations of old liberal principles. I can also clearly see that the contradictions between these will be resolved and replaced as the march of technology impacts on the art and commerce of pornography to become ever more democratised.

Ultimately it is more satisfying to be a participant in the action than a member of the audience, but nobody can hold the stage indefinitely because the crowd will always want more.


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