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by Sarah Ismail    
September 14, 2008 at 11:28 pm

I’ve had Cerebral Palsy since birth. Luckily, I’m mildly affected by this physical disability. I often thank God that I have amazing parents, who very rarely complain, or let anyone see that they are struggling with the difficulties of having a child with a disability.

When I first read about Joanne Hill, I was shocked. Hill, 32, from Wales, drowned her four-year-old daughter, Naomi, in a bathtub because she couldn’t cope with Naomi’s mild Cerebral Palsy. She came up with the plan to kill Naomi after Naomi’s father, who cared for her deeply, refused to put her up for adoption.

Hill was ‘embarrassed’ by Naomi’s leg splints and hearing difficulties, and irritated by some of the side effects of her medication.

The defendant went upstairs to run a bath, adding bubble bath, and came down for a glass of wine. When the bath was full she told Naomi she was having a bath. But Naomi didn’t want one so she carried her upstairs and undressed her. The defendant put her in the bath and drowned her by holding her head under the water for a long time. Mr Chambers said Ms Hill then dressed Naomi and left the house, placing her daughter and a bottle of wine in the car, before her husband returned home from work.

Police have been able to establish that she visited a petrol station at about 11.30pm that night and the jury were shown CCTV footage of her smiling and joking with the sales assistant.

Hill denies murder, but admits unlawful killing. Her defence will claim diminished responsibility for a charge of manslaughter, since, not surprisingly, Hill has a history of mental health problems.

The trial continues, but Mr Chambers says he believes that, “in the months and days leading up to the death of Naomi, the mother’s behaviour was considered normal and rational.”

My childhood friend’s family – who fought battles so he could have the life he deserved – are still grieving several years after his natural death from side effects of severe Cerebral Palsy. They will grieve for the rest of their lives.

Under the Disability Discrimination Act 2005, Naomi could have had full access to a mainstream education and, later, mainstream employment. Speaking from personal experience, I don’t doubt Naomi’s intellectual abilities for a second. Under the Act, she could also have accessed any goods, facilities and services that she wished to.

With this Act in place, and with my personal experiences of positive changes in mainstream attitudes to disability, I see no good reason for Hill to be ‘embarrassed’ by Naomi’s disability- at least not in the 21st century.

I have been told about a few children who have been put up for adoption because their ‘parents’ were unable to cope with their disabilities. I believe that a real parent should love their child unconditionally, with or without disability.

I’m not saying for a second that all parents in the situation can cope with having disabled children. I know of parents who have left their families, including disabled children, and never looked back- but I believe that they, like Hill, never deserved to have children in the first place.


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Sarah is a DisAbled blogger with a degree in Creative Writing. Sarah blogs at Same Difference about DisAbility issues and worked as a copy editor for the magazine Society Today. She has written a collection of poetry about life with a physical disability 'Listen To The Silence'.
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Reader comments

Good post. Nice to see some acknowledgement on this blog that parenting isn’t all about sacrifices and misery and is actually, done well, a noble, beautiful and rewarding thing – even or especially when setbacks and difficulties mean it doesn’t always run smoothly. This may be stating the obvious, but some recent comments have tried to make the case for abortion by presenting children as some kind of brutal prison sentence no one can humanely be expected to bear.

Hill should have exercised her reproductive rights sooner…er, have I got that right?

3. Andrew Brereton

Thank you for bringing this into the arena for debate. I was a parent of a little boy who suffered profound quadriplegic cerebral palsy, – unfortunately he passed away four years ago after a series of brainstem strokes left him initially in a coma and ultimately led to his untimely demise.

This story makes my blood boil. If she was mentally unstable and unable to cope then where were social services in all this? Surely they would have been monitoring the situation and Naomi placed on the ‘at risk’ register?

Like you, from what I have read, I feel that this ‘woman’ knew exactly what she was doing. How anyone can hurt a child is beyond my comprehension, but to harm a child like Naomi, who more than other children needed her mother’s protection, love and advocacy, is particularly cold and cruel.

I would give anything to have my little boy back with me. Yes, he had complex needs and the severity of his condition could cause alarm on occasion. Yes, he didn’t quite look like everyone else in the street and no, he didn’t quite ‘fit in’ with society’s stereotype of what a child should be, but he was a beautiful, marvellous individual with a wonderful personality, an impish sense of humour and an intelligence, which despite his overwhelming physical handicaps, shone like a beacon. He inspired me to greater things than I ever would have imagined possible as you can see from my website and blog.

Shame on this woman. May beautiful little Naomi rest in peace.

Thank you all very much for your comments, though cjcjc has confused me a little.

Andrew Brereton- I am very, very sorry for your loss. I have no doubt at all that your son, just like my friend, was a beautiful and extremely intelligent person. It is parents like you who make it impossible for me to understand Hill’s actions.

I have seen your website and wish you all the best with Snowdrop. What a wonderful tribute.

Maybe you should, err, wait until the jury have decided the facts of the case, rather than passing judgement on Ms Hill based on a fucking newspaper article?

I was only pointing out that the editorial line of this blog appears to be that abortions should be permitted right up to the very moment of birth .
Personally I see little difference between killing at day -1 and killing at day +1200.

Oh. Yes. Same here.

8. Andrew Brereton

“Maybe you should, err, wait until the jury have decided the facts of the case, rather than passing judgement on Ms Hill based on a fucking newspaper article?”

Now, now, take it easy!

The facts of the case? The KNOWN facts so far are as follows.

(1). Little girl with cerebral palsy, dead by drowning

(2). Mother involved in child’s death.

(3). An element of conscious pre-planning.

The jury may decide that she was ‘operating’ under ‘diminished responsibility,’ but there appears to be no doubt that she was ‘operating!’

9. douglas clark

cjcjc,

What about at day minus 112, which is around and about where this blog finally settled? Or 24 weeks as a general rule.

Don’t agree with this trial by newspaper stuff, right enough. Andrew Brereton and Sarah have already decided, which they are no more competent to do than the newspapers they read. Leave it to a jury.

Did this blog settle there?

Not according to Sunny or Laurie!

11. douglas clark

cjcjc,

This thread is about life and living. What are you adding to it?

There’s no overall editorial policy on abortion. Laurie, Jess and I have our respective positions. We laid out the reasons for 24 weeks, that is what we campaigned about earlier. I’m not saying every writer on LC has the same view. This bit should be a bit obvious by now cjcjc, but then I see you haven’t moved on from your pot-shots….

She’s been found guilty! I’n off to celebrate: http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/wales/7631734.stm


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